Trauma in Desi Women
Being a woman in India is a kind of challenge mentally and physically. As we know, South Asian culture is male dominant rather, I say most of the communities are. In any community, you have to be strong to survive. You know the survival of the fittest rule, else it can cause trauma. Many desi women face depression and mental health issues due to this.
What Makes Being a Desi Woman Traumatic?
On September 29, Tuesday, there were reports of a Dalit caste woman’s death, one of India’s lower castes. The woman has been inhumanely raped by 4 men in the Hathras district of Uttar Pradesh. This tragedy made the public very angry. This is not the first case of rape in India. However, there have been many previous cases in that society, but this one came into the limelight. Does that mean cast often takes away the rights of women? This is one of the factors causing the trauma in women in Indian society. According to ecmhc.org, trauma is an emotional experience characterized by an inability to escape from memories of bad events in the past.
The cause of this trauma came from a bad incident and how a person interprets the painful event. Also, problems that can cause trauma can range from personal experiences to unavoidable environmental chaos. Humans can experience trauma because of several factors. Among the factors in question is how they interpret a bad experience. Desi women often have these bad experiences from outside or inside their society. Their bad experience leads them to have traumatic phases that they cannot avoid.
The exploitation of The Desi Woman: The Evidence of Trauma
In a report released by the National Crime Records Bureau, an average of 87 rapes happened in India each day in 2019, a 7 percent increase in 2018. They reported a total of 405,861 crimes against women throughout the year, although the number of cases may be much higher due to rape reporting stigma.
The fact is that the violence that occurs with women in India is along with indecisive law. Some analysts researching rape in India believe that the country’s justice system’s weaknesses give way to vigilante practice. Although the government has doubled the prison term for rapists to 20 years, this does not appear to be working.
Desi Woman’s Place In Society
In the book “Ein Unglück ist die Tochter,” the author wrote that it undermined women’s role in India a long time ago. Even now, the role of women is not always superior to men. Society does not allow them to construct an identity that expresses themselves. As women, that means they have to obey men. If they didn’t, they would face domestic violence.
In India’s Hindu tradition, when parents want to marry their children, the girl’s family must pay money to the groom. Though dowry is illegal now, you will still find people who take the dowry. Worse, if they can’t pay, the woman’s family will feel very embarrassed. That is why people there consider that women are a financial burden.
Consequences of Desi Women Trauma
Then, what will happen to women in the future?
Research in India shows that depression, trauma, and anxiety are particularly vulnerable to women in India. Studies indicate that most women have 2-3 times more Common Mental Disorder (CMD) than men. This is due to women’s bad experiences, including sexual violence, being marginalized, being unable to express themselves, and having a low level of support from society.
Apart from these factors, women are more susceptible to CMD due to other life pressures such as caring for children, taking care of mothers, and taking care of their husbands. Women are also less likely to get higher education and job opportunities. Furthermore, they have financial instability, which causes pressure on society.
Is There Any Solution For The Awareness?
However, a strong piece of legislation is not enough. Violence against women is a deeply rooted community mindset. If we want to change this, then change the mindset.
As the Prime Minister, Jawaharlal Nehru, once said,
“Legislation cannot by itself solve entrenched social problems. One has to approach them in other ways too, but laws are necessary and essential and therefore can provide that impetus and have the educational factor, and the legal sanctions behind them, which help public opinion to be given some form.”
Therefore, women and men must understand each other.
Being a desi woman is a destiny that we cannot control. However, changing the stigma and people’s mindset can be controlled. Then, it must be becoming a top priority.
This is not just the issue with desi women, but all women in the society face inequality. Why have Women always been treated as secondary? Why are women responsible for everything? Is associating household work with women is right? And even if she does all the work of the house, society never acknowledged her value. It indicates we need to change the mindset of society. Unless we change the mindset, we will always be secondary in this male dominating society.